To The Parents Who Just Found Out Their Baby Has A Congenital Heart Defect:
I know you are scared, friend. I know all too well.
My first baby was diagnosed prenatally at 21 weeks with a CHD. We were devastated and scared. Following the announcement of “Congratulations, it’s a girl!” was the almost immediate declaration that something was seriously wrong with the structure of her heart. With our second child, our son, it wasn’t until he was 2 months old that we learned of his CHD diagnosis.
I understand what you are going through right now. I get it. I know you are probably feeling so isolated, but I am here to tell you something very important:
You are not alone. Not even close.
You may not know this yet, but CHDs are the most common birth defect. Approximately 1 in 100 babies are born with some form of congenital heart defect. I had no idea how common this was until our family was affected.
You will soon come to learn that you have an instant connection to other “Heart” moms and dads. No one understands what you are feeling like other Heart Parents. Sometimes it is difficult or impossible to verbally explain what you are feeling – your fears, your questions, your worries. In these cases, please remember that other Heart Parents know exactly what is in your heart.
Our family’s motto for our babies has always been “believe.”
Believe in miracles.
Believe in doctors.
Believe in yourself and the strength you never knew you had.
Please know support is there if and when you need it. There are many great organizations and online support groups out there for parents like us.
I get it, friend. I am right there with you. So many of us are.
A Fellow Heart Mom